As humans, I believe we are hardwired to connect. Connection with others is our lifeline to happiness, passion, and growth. We can sit for hours in quiet solitude and contemplation, but the minute we must communicate with others, even the most serene of us, can still become enraged behind the wheel of your car, or hurt and angry when you feel slighted, attacked, or unheard. Healthy communication is the key to healthy relationships. My skill set in providing you with a safe place to be seen, heard, and understood even in the face of conflict and pain is the first step towards improving your relationships.
Anger and Resentment are the 2 key ingredients that will destroy any relationship. In my practice, I work hard to understand where this anger is coming from, explore the history of your pain, validate your perspective while also challenging you to develop skills that will neutralize these toxic feelings. Sometimes re-processing old hurts (utilizing EMDR) can help you push through your resentment and allow you to reconnect with your partner or family member in a healthy way. Boundary setting, developing compassion and increasing empathy, are all building blocks towards creating a long lasting relationship.
When people come to me because they can’t communicate, what I have learned over the years is that what they really do not do very well is LISTEN. If you choose to work with me I will teach you the basic skills of mirroring, recognizing each other’s non-verbal signals, being more mindful of your own emotions, all before you utter even one word! We will work on increasing your tolerance for frustration, and how to manage your own sensitivity before you engage in any conversation, whether it be in the workplace or in your personal life.
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