I believe that your couples therapist needs to be highly active in session. Too many times I have heard clients tell me that they tried couples therapy and it "only made us feel worse" or "all we did was fight in session." My goal is to be an advocate for the relationship. This means I will interrupt you when things escalate in session so that you both experience a new way of interacting that is based on mutual respect, trust and compassion. We call this a corrective emotional experience that teaches you to fight fairly and with dignity for one another. My clients tell me that they find my interactive style and sense of humor refreshing and worthwhile.